To please your kids: Yes! Spoil them too: no! Return on 10 precepts to teach your child that there are not only gifts in life (there are also love!) …
determine your rules
Even if this heartbreaking, it’s parent, to impose your own rules to you. In the end, it is you that will come the final decision to buy that gift for your child or not, and not vice versa. This Board is worth in all areas as your child learns to respect a framework that it necessarily imposed on him in his future life. Whatever your decision, positive or negative, it must come from you to have an effect on your child.2. do not try to fill a gap.
Too spoil her child is often indicative of a lack that one seeks to fill… Without falling into clichés, it is not unusual to ask at least once the question. Because we work too much, because there seems to care more of the youngest or because it expected it to be wise in return… to spoil her child for a shortfall he will never make service!3. explain without justify you
To pass on your values to your child, explain your choice and do not leave with a ‘no ‘. It is important to understand why you refuse today to buy him this gift, explaining the reasons, but not for you for hours. This decision is yours and even if your child finds it unfair, it must accept it and above all understand.
know identify a caprice
Children are used to make the little whims – and even big tantrums – to test the limits of their parents, especially before 3 years where their desires and emotions dominate. In this case, no need to try to reason with him, you need to tweak it to divert attention from your last.
have your child his motives
In a store, your child is approached from all sides, it is normal that he be tried. So think of it as a large and make it talk to find out why he wants so this toy. When you say no? When you have the feeling that he just want to satisfy an immediate need. If it does not seem very convinced or lack of argument, your child will quickly be another fad!
If there is a toy that you always refused to buy your child because you find it useless or that it goes against your principles of education, do not give in! This isn’t because it’s Christmas, to make an exception to your rules of education. Your child will jump at the chance to refer to figure this loophole! Here again, to explain your point of view.
empower your child
If your child was seduced by a toy that he saw on TV and that he ask, take it with you to the store so that he could see it in person. Thus, your child will understand that his wishes did not materialize all alone. He will also realize that this toy is so good that or that there may be exactly the same in his toy box. If he is convinced, to explain him that among the plethora of toys he wants, he must make a choice!
find a balance the rest of the year
We tends to spoil her child at Christmas and on his birthday because he has a good opportunity, but what about the rest of the year? You can offer him gifts but in him explaining why (good notes, wisdom, etc). Be sure to avoid him buy what he wants without explanation: do not that it becomes a habit.
learn him the small pleasures of life
In life, he n y’ has not the gifts! Teach your child that there are 1000 and a small pleasures in life that are better than yet another small car. Promote the moments spent together where your child opens the spirit by offering an alternative to a toy. Output, cinema, exhibitions,… So many activities which, of course, have a price, but which allow exchanging family (and add not mess in his room).
I made the right choice? I do not my little wretch by “depriving” of what he desires? Or on the contrary, I do too much? It is not uncommon as a MOM, feeling guilty, of being indecisive in the face of his educational choices. Your credo for this year: enjoy, without too much question. You’ve cracked and flooded your loulou of gifts? Is not very serious, if you keep in the espritl this is exceptional.
It is also the spirit of Christmas!